Love Her Well
post written by Emma Filbrun
Title: Love Her Well
Author: Kari Kampakis
Major Themes: Parenting, Motherhood
Synopsis: What mother does not need advice on how to love her daughters?
Sometimes I request a book for review because it sounds interesting—and sometimes because I think it might be helpful. Love Her Well was one of the latter. I currently have three daughters. One is an adult; the other two are quite young. For several years now, I have had a very good relationship with my oldest daughter, and hope to have the same with the younger ones as they mature, so I hoped to glean some wisdom from this book.
There are 10 chapters in this book, each one elaborating on one point in a list of “10 ways to find joy and connection with your teenage daughter.” This list, in itself, is very helpful. A few of the points are to choose your words (and timing) carefully, make your relationship a priority, enjoy her, laugh often, and have fun, and pray for her and empower her through faith. Actually, these points, in themselves, apply to raising sons as well as daughters!
Though all these points are very good to keep in mind, and apply equally to all our children, I struggled somewhat with the book itself. For many, if not most, modern mothers, it would apply well. However, it just didn’t resonate with me very much. Why? Because most of the book seemed to presume that all teenage girls will be going to school, which creates many problems socially, which is what the mother needs to help them through. I simply can’t relate to very much of the book, because we have always homeschooled our children, and thus avoided these issues.
Even though much of Love Her Well did not speak to me, there were a number of points that stood out. It was comforting to read that, “Every child is just one decision away from stupid, one decision away from making you look like the worst mother on earth.” (So nice to know I’m not alone!) I also appreciate the reminder that “You can’t control your daughter, but you can control your attitude, actions and choices,” and “God is found in the present. Not in the future, not the past, but the present.”
At the end of the book is a list of 50 prayers to pray for your daughter (or son). I should print these out and keep them handy!
I received a free copy of this book from the author, and these are my honest thoughts about it.
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Keywords: Parenting, Motherhood, Girls, Christian Non-Fiction, Christian Living, Family Life, Books for Women